Happy Tuesday friends! I had a plan of uploading something completely different today but as life would have it just wasn’t it the cards. The photos I took didn’t turn out the way I envisioned them, and I just so happened to start a reading a book and it inspired me to write this post on a whim. So here I am, after an hour and a half of pounding on my keyboard I share with you something very dear to my heart. Self love. This is something I see less and less of in women as today’s society is driven by technology and social media. It’ s something I have personally struggled with for years and although I am not ashamed of admitting that, I am sad that I have to admit to it.
I hope you can find one or more ways mentioned below to help start or strengthen your self love journey.
Any guesses as to what book I’m currently reading?
READ IT AND WEEP
There are a ton of books out there specially written for the soul purpose of helping to find self love. So don’t worry, you are not alone my friend. Authors publish books about their own life struggles and how they dealt with it in order for others to find solace in their journey. You shouldn’t go through life without experiencing or allowing others to experience your full and true self because whether you know it or not, you are amazing. I don’t even know you and I know that, so why don’t you start believing in it to and pick up a book girlfriend.
Just to name a few…
DE-TOXIFY YOUR SOUL
Just like breathing, in with the good, and out with the bad. Toxic people in your life are bad news, fiends, family, co-workers, whoever, ditch em’. It does not matter how they will react so stop over thinking it. Start to deep clean who really deserves to be a part of your life and its amazing how much they weight you down.
I had a friend throughout middle and high school and in the middle of our first year of college, after getting friendship tattoos (!!!) I decided she was not a positive person in my life. She would always victimize herself and was never be happy for any of my accomplishments. I ghosted her before ghosting was even a thing. I could have handled it better mind you, but I was 18 and I have grown since then.
I also haven’t spoken to my father in over a year. But thats a whole story in it’s own. The definition of toxic.
SELF MANTRA IT OUT
Now, you don’t have to go around saying a mantra out loud and look like a loony person. But when things start to build up, your over analyzing starts to overflow and you start to hate everything about yourself… Start to repeat something that will change your view. Say it internally, type it, write it down, or look like that crazy person on the street and scream it to the world!
“I AM BEAUTIFUL”
“I AM WORTHY”
“I AM A BADASS BITCH”
“I AM POWERFUL”
“I AM TALENTED”
Something to get you through the rough patch and something to tell your subconscious to STFU.
BRING ON THE HAPPINESS
Find use for that notebook, journal, scrap paper, and start to actually write things down. A thing I learned from reading, Girl Wash Your Face, was that Rachel Hollis sits down every morning and writes in something called a Start Today Journal. Now what she writes could be completely different than what you write. But writing something positive down on paper sinks into your subconscious meaning that it will likely happen. I totally believe in this BTW and other bloggers like Kalyn Nicholson will back me up.
REASONS TO BE HAPPY…
QUALITIES YOU LOVE ABOUT YOURSELF…
POSITIVE CHANGES YOU CAN MAKE…
You can write anything under the sun but doing this first thing in the morning sets a healthy foundation for the rest of your day. It’s also something you can look back on when things get tough.
ACCEPT YOUR AWESOMENESS
Fake it until you make it. Honestly it’s that easy and it works.
My first year of college (really second year but I changed programs so my first year of my second college) I had really low self esteem. Like all time, ripping my hair extensions out, sleeping all day, skipping class kind of low self esteem. I hated myself. No matter what I did, I could never think of myself as someone I could love. I loved my boyfriend, my mom, and my cat, but I couldn’t accept myself the same way. Until I start to just think it. Twisting all the negatives into positives about my appearance, grades, everything. Instead of thinking “Oh my god I cant go out in public wearing glasses I hate the way they make me look and won’t match my outfit” and turn it into “I’m wearing glasses today and I’m killing it, I should be the new model for Ray Bans. I feel like a sexy librarian and I don’t care who knows it”. I started seeing myself through others eyes and all the qualities I possessed. Fast forward to now, I’m a college graduate working a real adult job but I still revert back to negative thoughts some days. I’m only human.
Everyone has their own story of how they look at themselves, but remember, only you are in charge of how you end up living with yourself.
Leave me a comment below telling me what you think your best qualities are! I look forward to hearing all the self love.